Dealing with Breakups
Understand that you are still in love with her simply because you can’t have her
If she all of a sudden became extremely needy she would cease to be so attractive. Men are in love with women they cannot have and women are in love with men they
cannot have. If they could have them, that person would cease to be as attractive.
There are plenty of fish in the sea
There are over 3 billion women in the world and the median age for women world-wide is 29 years old. That means there are millions of dateable women in the world. There are literally millions of women as good, or better, than her. There are prettier women, there are sexier women, there are smarter women, there are younger women – anything you can think of there are millions more.
She is not your soulmate, your true love, the one or anything else
She’s just a girl you dated for a while. Soulmates and true love is an invention of the movies and sold to the gullible masses. If she was your soulmate or your true love you would still be with her and everything would be roses. If such a thing as soulmates existed then you would have never broken up. If true-love existed then she would still be with you. It isn’t true love you have, it’s true infatuation because she played you really well. If the girl actually was perfect for you then you would not have broken up.
Realize that when another girl comes along you will forget all about the old one
The way you get over your dog’s death is you mourn for a while and then you go to the puppy pound and pick up a new dog. Similarly, the way you truly get over a woman is
to get another one.
Do not watch sappy movies or listen to sad music.
The media you imbibe affects your mood, positively or negatively. Rather than consume media that makes you sad, you should consume media that uplifts you and motivates you for the future. Don’t feed that heartbreak fire with heartbreak songs, movies and books.
Realize that you dodged a bullet by breaking up
Since it could not last, could never last, its best that it’s over with now instead of in the future when much more could be at stake i.e. children, alimony, divorce, child support etc. A little heartache is a whole lot better than being bled dry from an unhappy ex-wife.
Realize that you will just be sad and lonesome for a little while and accept it
You wouldn’t be human if you had no emotions. So maybe you’ll spend a week listening to sad music and drinking too much whiskey. Just don’t let it become habit. Get it out, get it over with and move on.
You can learn from your mistakes and be a better companion for your future wome
That doesn’t mean you should pay more attention or buy more gifts, you shouldn’t. You should act in a similar aloof manner in which “the one” acted which caused
you so much heartache and pain. If you want your woman to be head over heels in love with you, you simply cannot be too available to her.
That doesn’t mean you must be rude or mean, but it does mean you cannot be too nice or too eager to please. Never spill your guts and always let her wonder about you.
Conventional wisdom says otherwise but conventional wisdom leads to divorce from “unhappy” wives who didn’t have the mystery they craved.
Your woman must look up to you in some way to maintain her feelings of love for you. When you maintain that aloofness she is drawn to your power, the power she craves for you to have but will never admit.
Never, ever take advice from women on how to get women
They will lie unknowingly and tell you to be nice and be yourself and buy gifts, knowing full well that they despise the losers who do such things. Similarly, do not take advice from internet “pick up artists” hellbent on sexual degeneracy. The best person to take advice from is a guy who continually has pretty girlfriends who dote on him.
Realize that a lot of modern women will never be happy with any man as long as they live
The reality is that modern woman has been spoon-fed completely unrealistic romance movies her entire life and she believes in them as much as she believes in anything. She believes she deserves everything she sees on TV. She will always think that her perfect man, her soulmate, her white knight in shining armor is out there somewhere.
Absolutely nothing a man can do will please such women forever. These women will die alone and will never, ever understand where they went wrong until it’s too late. These are the women whom you cannot please no matter what. If you’re dating such a woman you should let her go immediately and find a better companion. Don’t fall for the “saving her” baloney. She isn’t a damsel in distress and she is beyond redemption. Such cases will only end with you with your head in your hands wondering “why?”.
