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Everybody knows a few Jealous Johnny’s who can’t be happy for anyone’s success and always have a snotty, negative comment to make. Those are the people who don’t succeed. The people who don’t get ahead. The people that sabotage themselves with their negative behavior. They see a successful person and they think “What an asshole! I can’t believe girls like him! What a prick! I could do that if I wanted to!“. Those people should simply be ignored. Those armchair critics can stay in loser-ville with the other Negative Nancy’s.
You, on the other hand, are smarter than that. You know what when you see someone who has an enviable life that he probably did something to obtain his good fortune. You know that if you can put together the puzzle of what he did, learn from his successes and mistakes, then you may be able to obtain similar fortune. And when you study the lives of many enviable Men you can let all of their combined advice, teachings and mishaps inform you of what it takes to be successful. You can let the envy motivate you. There is no time for negativity when you are busy becoming something better.
If you treat successful people as teachers and you the student there is much to learn. If you treat successful people as the butt of your complaint then there is nothing to learn and nothing to gain. When someone produces a twinge of jealousy in you think not “How the hell did that asshole do that? What a lucky bastard!“. Instead, think to yourself “How can I do that?” and then put together the puzzle. What one man can do, another can do. All you need to do is reverse engineer that success. Figure out what they did and then emulate it.
It does not take creativity to be successful. Most people are not creative. What it does take is recognizing an opportunity when it presents itself.
Next time you are jealous or envious do not think negatively about what an a-hole the winner is. Instead, think to yourself how you can accomplish the same thing. Visualize yourself doing the same thing. Learn everything you can about the winners process so you can emulate or modify the process and create success for yourself. One thing you do not need to do is re-invent the wheel. The wheel is already here and it’s a great invention – it is only your job to determine how you can emulate someone who is already making money from the wheel.
“But I don’t want to be a copycat!”
Yes, you do. You think you are the only person in the world to hold a job? You are the only person in the world to work in an office or a factory? There are millions billions who trade their time for money. People who work jobs are the biggest copycats in the world.
Everyone is already a copycat. Why not copy success instead of mediocrity? It truly does not take more work or thought to run a, say, successful internet business than it does to punch in a time card every Monday through Friday.
When I went into business for myself I did not re-invent the wheel. I did what hundreds, probably thousands, of other people already do. I studied their methods. Day and night I studied. I learned and I decided what would work best for me and my strengths. The only thing hard about going into business for yourself is being DEDICATED. If you can dedicate yourself, just like you dedicate yourself to your 9-5 jive, you can accomplish something. Maybe you won’t become rich but there is one thing that is infinitely more important than material wealth – TIME.
The time and freedom to enjoy life as you wish is the most precious thing in the world.
All it takes the desire. Find the method you want to copy, find one that meshes with your strengths and sensibilities and get to copying. You can copy my step by step Spartan Entrepreneur method or you can copy any method you want. Damn near anything you want to copy can be found online.
If you cannot find a method on the internet there is a little known secret that Entrepreneurs have been using for centuries…
This secret is called….
ASKING QUESTIONS.
Find someone who does what you want to do and ask them questions. Take them to lunch or for a beer and pick their brain. Most people are happy to talk about their business and themselves. All you have to do is pick their brain. A tiny little nugget of seemingly throw-away information could prove to be invaluable to you. Instead of being Jealous of Johnny you can pick Johnny’s brain and find out what he did to build what he has built.
You may find out you were jealous for no reason. You may find out that most entrepreneur’s are not super smart geniuses, they are just regular people who decided to follow and copy the method of other tried and true pros.
Heck, you may come to find out you can do the exact same thing.
